I am 20 years old and I am dating a guy who is a musical instrumentalist (saxophonist). He is twenty-three years old and we have been together for three years now.
I am still a virgin and my boyfriend understands my situation and does not pressure me to sleep with him. However we have done every other intimate things except to sleep together.
Lately I found out that he has two other girl friends, aside of me. When I confronted him, he did not deny and claimed they were the ones who asked him out, that I remain his true love. I had no choice but to believe him when I consider the fact that he is a talented guy.
Not quite long ago, I was about to see him off on a visit to my house, when my mum called me away. I asked him to wait outside while I answered my mum.
Over this period there has been some trouble with cultists in our neighbourhood and the police were swarming everywhere and arresting suspicious young men. That day a team of police men arrested my boyfriend while he was waiting for me. My parents in conjunction with his quickly went about trying to bail him at the police station and thankfully he was released. that same day. My mother further went to apologise to his parents for the embarassing incident.
The problem is that three days after he was arrested he came to my place crying. He explained in between tears that his parents had asked him not to go out with me again. He said he did not know what he would do without me. I was shocked but he begged me not to leave him but I decided to start avoiding him. Even when I come across him on the street, I deliberately snub him and he has been going about trying to seek my attention.
A friend of mine came to me and told me he saw my boyfriend in a compromising situation with another girl. I was so mad at this information that I confronted him with it. He denied it claiming he was only adjusting the girls scarf because they were in front the church.
Please I need advise because my friend insists she saw him clearly and that he lied to me. What do you think I should do now because I am confused and don’t know what to do. Should I believe my friend or my boyfriend. Help me because I am avoiding any form of heartbreak and I have never experienced one before.